The "Ten Commandments" - Fridays dose - October 21st 2011

Fridays dose - October 21st 2011 

The "Ten Commandments"

"Simply let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No' "- (Matthew 5:37, NIV). 

I recently received an email in French requesting a copy of the "Ten
Commandments." As I can't read French, I used the Google online
translator to read this person's request. When translating online,
sometimes the words can come out rather funny. For instance, when I asked Google to translate, "The cat sat on the mat" into French it
read, "Le chat s'est reposé sur la natte." But when I asked Google to
translate this back into English it read, "The cat rested on the
plait." And then when I checked the word "plait" in my computer
Thesaurus it said, "ponytail. So "The cat sat on the mat" ended up
as "The cat rested on the ponytail."

Jokes aside, it's understandable that this can happen when
translating online from one language to another, but the same thing
happens very easily when communicating in person in the same language—especially between parents and children and husbands and wives.

Effective communication should be one of many "commendments" because so many misunderstandings and broken relationships are caused by mis-communications and/or misunderstood communications.

One of the challenges in communication is that we see and hear
things, and will even read into things, on the basis of how we feel
about ourselves, and on the bases of unresolved issues from past
significant relationships.

If I am a very insecure, super-sensitive person, the slightest
negative comment can send me into an emotional tailspin. Or if I
didn't get along with my mother, and you say or do something that
reminds me of my mother, it's going to push my "mother button" and I will overreact way out of proportion to what you said or did. And you are going to be left wondering what on earth is happening to me. Then we get into the battle of: "You said" ... "did not." "Yes you
did"... "no I didn't" ... "did" ... "didn't...." And the vicious
cycle continues and escalates.

As healthy relationships are vital to healthy living, learning to
communicate effectively needs to be a top priority. There are many
helpful tips on how we can learn to do this besides learning to hear
what is not being said, but the bottom line is that we need to
resolve all past impaired significant relationships so our hot
buttons don't get pushed, and that we grow in maturity so we overcome our insecurities.

Prayer: "Loving Heavenly Father, please help me to see and resolve
any and all impaired relationships and grow in maturity so I learn to
love and accept myself in a healthy manner and not overreact to what others say and do. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, In Jesus loving Name I Pray, Amen."

Have a Blessed Friday and God Bless you all.
Courtesy: Daily Dose Team